Courtship comes alive through uncertainty, play and mutual curiosity, but becomes exhausting when self-worth depends entirely on the other person’s response.
Desire cannot be demanded
Erotic contact needs two subjects, not a conqueror and a prize. Persistence after a clear refusal is pressure, not romance.
- curiosity, not interrogation
- invitation, not pressure
- respect the answer
When courtship becomes dependency
Idealisation replaces a real person with a promise of rescue from loneliness. Returning to one’s own life restores perspective.
Eroticism needs space
Intimacy does not erase separateness. The space to miss, imagine and choose each other again supports living desire.
This article is for information and does not replace an individual consultation with a psychologist.
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